We are all concerned about the dress code that our schools maintain and that usually means not flaunting too much skin. However, when this sixth grader was sent home with a note for two days in a row for wearing shorts (too short, according to the dress code) in warm weather. In which case, the mother invited the school principal to go clothes shopping with her for her daughter.
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This is the photo that was posted on social media to show us what the problem was.
Apparently, these short were inappropriate because they did not extend the length of her daughter’s fingers.
My girl was dress coded two days in a row. It's impossible to find shorts that are remotely fashionable and below her finger tips. She's tall with long arms and fingers. One more code and she will have detention. And making the policy even more frustrating is that there isn't a dress code for high school.
The mother, Catherine Guggenheimer Pearlman admits that she has a hard time finding longer shorts for her daughter because her daughter is tall with long arms and legs. This makes it difficult for Catherine to find shorts that appeal to the dress code. For this reason, she challenged the principal to find “dress code” appropriate clothes for her daughter.
In her note, she says, “Thank you for sending a note home for the second day in a row to say my daughter was dressed inappropriately for school. I’d like to offer an additional than you for forcing her to change into large mesh shorts that have been worn by only god knows who and potentially never washed.”
She continues, “To reward you for treating my daughter with such concern, I am cordially inviting you to take my daughter shopping.”
Then she proceeded to give the principal more specifics, such as, “here are teh specification you have to work with. I wish you loads of luck. She’s 5’7” and 13 years old. Built more like her father, she has exceptionally long legs and arms. She doesn’t like anything pink or purple or frilly.”
Here are the rest of the specifics:
“She won’t wear pants because she gets overheated easily. Trust me I’ve seen this. It will cause a scene in the school yard.”
“She absolutely will not wear a dress either.”
“No item of clothing can have a logo visible because to her that’s not cool. She will however, wear any type of superhero, Green Day or USFL T-shirt if you can find them. You might be able to try for an occasional Beatles reference but that’s touch and go.”
“Now, don’t forget that you will have to find something in the stores that also meets with your dress code requirements. Here are the tricky areas that are most difficult to avoid. As per your policy she cannot wear tank tops. Shorts and skirts must not extend to the end of the fingertips (This is a toughie.)”
“So, if I were you (and I’m glad I’m not) I’d focus on the shorts first. She has very long fingers which seems to make finding shorts that won’t get her sent to the principal’s office impossible (On the bright side the piano teacher says those fingers are an asset.). I’d schedule a few afternoons and weekends for this endeavor. I can tell you from experience that just heading to the mall, Target and the outlets won’t cut it. Not much for her there. I’ve already checked.”
“One last point: please try to stay within a reasonable budget. We can’t spend a fortune on her wardrobe. She is still growing after all.”
“I thank you endlessly for taking on this chore. What a relief for me.”
“Sick Of The Dress Code Mom”
“P.S. I forgot to thank you for making it clear to my daughter that her body is somehow a distraction, either to herself or to the boys. I thought she might have missed the message earlier in the year when the gym teacher told her she couldn’t wear yoga pants because the boys aren’t able to control themselves. I appreciate how hard you are working to drive the point home.”
Following the letter, the mom decided to post it to social media to see what kind of reaction and support she may receive off other parents. The comments said it all.
The chat then spread to other Facebook pages where people continued to discuss the letter. She sure has caused a stir.
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